A Sad Ending

Tidbit is no longer coming. It's a terribly complex ordeal. Both Cheeks and Zombiedude are devastated. I understand. And the only comfort I can offer is the same thing my family told me: this is nature's way of taking care of something that would have been a mistake; whether the baby had something wrong or whatever, nature often knows and takes steps to take care of it. Small comfort, I know, and it sounds harsh. However, they are both still young and this will not be the only chance they have. So far, they seem to be coping as well as can be expected. There also appear to be no ill health effects, which is a great relief. I may not get along with Cheeks or Zombiedude all the time, but that doesn't mean I wish evil on either of them. (I reserve that for the truly worthy--professors, ex-husbands, etc.) The past few days have been hell on both of them, but they're starting to find their sense of humor again. It isn't frequent, but it is there...and that's the best sign anyone can hope for.

Cheeks' Mom made a suggestion I found very interesting and useful. Apparently when a friend of hers went through a similar situation, she sat and wrote a letter to the baby and put it in a box to keep. She said it really helped her through the situation and she'll pull it out now and then when she's thinking about it and it helps her feel better. Sounds like a great idea and one I hope the kids use. Not sure if others have done anything similar, and while I'm not wishing this on anyone, should anybody like the idea for themselves or someone they know, use it and pass it along.